Today and every day, keep these tips in mind to help your child step into their highest potential

Hey there, Honorable Parents of this wild New Paradigm,

The power is in your hands to offer something extraordinary and impactful to your kiddos that will speak directly to their Highest Selves and help them claim their full radiance.

The best part is that this won’t cost you anything, unless you choose to level-up on my suggestions below.

Nor does boosting their well-being require a bunch of clever mental gymnastics, any mind-numbing star charts, or the unproductive promise of dessert as long as they earn it.

What I’m about to outline for you are specifically-individuated infusions of self-esteem, which all kids deserve simply because they’re alive, but which, for eons, nobody realized was necessary in this way, because we didn’t know until recently that we could raise children with solutions that were so individually-targeted.

Lucky for us, now that we have tools like Human Design available to support us in raising Gen Alpha, Gen Beta and the late-comers to Gen Z), we have this insightful knowledge that clues us in to exactly what our kiddos yearn for and require.

Because no two kids are alike, we don’t offer any one-size-fits-all advice here.

That’s why I love the Science of Differentiation, i.e., Human Design. Because it cuts to the heart of what each human is really made of.

So the suggestions outlined below about what to give your child to support their well-being are based on their unique Energy Type — or what I call the Role they came into this lifetime to play.

Make sure you know what that is before you continue reading. You can look up their chart for free by filling out the form here. Grab it at the button below for free, and look on the results page at whatever word appears next to ‘The Role This Child is Here to Play…’

Then come on back to get your targeted tips!

Keep in mind that every number, shape, line and symbol on your kiddo’s chart represents another specific personality characteristic that makes them truly unique. In a private-reading scenario, we’d cover what those are and I’d give you pointers on everything you need to know about those. For our purposes here, because this is already a long post, these suggestions are limited to Type, or Role, which is the all-encompassing amalgamation of your kiddo’s energetic blueprint.

Without further ado:

What to give your Reflector child today to boost their well-being:

The Reflector kiddo is yearning to be surprised and delighted by life.

Their energy is often so dependent on atmospheric conditions (i.e., the planetary transits and whomever they’re surrounded by) that simply walking through the day0to-day can feel destabilizing and unfamiliar.

They are constantly being influenced by the energies the planets are emitting,

reading into other people, and reflecting back outwardly what’s taking place in their environment.

What they’re often used to sensing and picking up on is probably other people’s inner stress, feelings of unworthiness, impulses to create chaos, deep fears and their need to hustle and grind.

These things don’t feel good. They’re exhausting. So it’s no wonder your Reflector child wants to remove him or herself from the vibrational noise and spend time alone.

Give them a new experience — one that will delight and surprise them, something they never saw coming.

It doesn’t have to include skydiving or a 24-scoop sundae. Rather, keep it simple but make it something that’s outside of your ordinary, humdrum routine. Here are some free and/or low-cost examples:

• Make a surprise visit to a park after school today for an impromptu picnic;
• The next time you go to the grocery store, pick up some completely different snack foods that you never ordinarily get, like a groovy-looking star fruit or jackfruit that they may have never tried before;
• Arrange for a favorite auntie, uncle, or cousin to pop over for an unannounced visit;
• Or simply take a different route the next time you’re driving them to soccer or piano practice, and maybe change the radio station so they can hear a completely different type of music.

What to Give Your Projector Child Today to Boost Their Well-Being

Projector kids yearn for recognition and validation.

These wise illuminators with their big-picture vision want to know their advice has been followed by someone, and that it’s been appreciated.

I always say that the classic line a Projector is known for delivering is, “I toldja so.”

Because, so often, when we look back on it, we realize our Projectors were the ones warning us not to do something because it was unsafe or doomed to fail;

or it was them who kept telling us we were doing something in a way that didn’t make sense.

And what did we do? We shoved them aside, told them to mind their own beeswax and stay in their lane.

We stubbornly chose to ignore their big vision and do things our way, until we woke up and realized we’ve been banging our head against the wall all this time, and we should’ve listened to them in the first place.

So, if you’re raising a Projector child, one way to boost their well-being today is to seriously listen and take to heart the advice they’re generously giving.

Certainly, they are “just” a child, so their ability to know what’s truly “right” may be skewed by their lack of life experience and their limited world view.

Nevertheless, dare yourself to really have a good hard think about what they’re trying to communicate.

And honor their wisdom.

Tell them you really do hear what they’re saying.

Respect their point of view and tell them you’ll definitely consider their suggestion.

Tell them how wise they are.

And say thank you to them for sharing what’s on their mind and in their heart.Subscribed

What to Give Your Generator Child Today to Boost Their Well-Being

Generator kids yearn to feel like they’re really, really good at something.

They want nothing more than to feel satisfied after accomplishing something challenging;

to complete a task or conquer a mission and then punch their fists to their hips and heave a big sigh of relief that says, “I did it!”

So? Boost your Generator kiddo’s well-being today by setting up some kind of challenge for them that will secure a sure-fire win in the end.

Here’s how:

Brainstorm ahead of time some options for what you think they’d like to do most, and you can offer those ideas later and let them choose.

Some suggestions:

• An obstacle course in the yard;
• a treasure hunt around the neighborhood;
• building a cardboard city and then playing ‘earthquake’ to let them knock it down after;
• a parkour-inspired challenge circuit in a public park
• or making a haunted house in the basement…

You get the picture.

Just remember that Generators don’t do particularly great with open-ended questions. Rather, they thrive when given a prompt or template to start with and go from there.

So have some ideas like these in your back pocket about what you could do together, and let them pick from this or that, either/or.

Otherwise, you’ll overwhelm them and it’ll just become an exhausting conversation of “I don’t knows” that doesn’t go anywhere.

Whatever activities you come up with to do together, make sure each option is:

• physically active,
• age-appropriate,
• actually achievable and realistic, using the materials and resources you have available and that you can execute this at a time of day that makes sense for your family,
• and also fun.

The whole point here is to manufacture a joyful win for them.

So let them know the purpose of even doing a challenging activity together is to have some fun. If it turns into whining or they feel like they “have to do” the thing? It’s destined to go south.

Once you’ve offered them clear choices, watch their body language. They will probably respond physically somehow: by jumping up and down, making some guttural noise like a grunt or “Ooooo” sound, or they’ll lean forward.

This is their Defined Sacral Center doing its YES/NO/ responding thing;

it’s literally their life-force energy telling them which option sounds most enticing. So make sure to honor it!

Once the activity has been decided upon, collaborate with each other to make the thing happen.

Remember: these enthusiastic doers want to participate in the making of things! They are builders and creators. Watch them shine and ooze joy simply through the process of bringing this idea into being.

Now that the challenge activity/game is all set to go, join in the fun alongside them.

Do it together! Rally other family members in the project, invite neighborhood kids and even other parents to participate.

Turn it into a team competition.

Have everyone come up with fun team names or snarky, fun player names the way roller-derby skaters do (Ida Slapter is one of my all-time faves, along with Punchin’ Judy, both gleaned from the famous Seattle Rat City Roller Girls, whose bouts I used to attend when I lived there!).

Up the ante with bonus points, championship rounds or the possibility of winning a DIY trophy.

Just make sure your Generator child gets to score a big win.

Now, I’m not suggesting you cheat or let them prevail without trying — because, again, the whole point is that they want the satisfaction of having worked hard and nailing it.

So, you determine what level of difficulty they need, but dial down your own competitiveness to make sure they get to feel triumphant and proud of their efforts in the end.

Lastly — and this part is crucial — pat them on the back when they do secure that win.

Celebrate what they were able to achieve.

Tell them you’re impressed by all they can do.

And drill home the fact that you recognize the value in setting aside time to create a little joy each day.

What to Give your Manifesting-Generator Child Today to Boost Their Wel-Being:

The MG kiddo wants the same thing the Generator kiddo wants:

fun, joy, the satisfaction of having nailed something, and a sense of accomplishment.

They just want to do it faster, better, and more efficiently.

And they also want to participate in the ideation part of the challenge.

So read the Generator piece above and follow those suggestions.

But include them earlier in the process when you’re ideating about what activities you could choose from.

Similar to Manifestors, who are being constantly inspired by a barrage of new ideas, Mani-Gens are also often being ignited with inspiration to start something new.

So they’ll appreciate being a part of your brainstorming sesh to determine what takes place.

Be to make the activity MG-specific, be sure to add in a timed element: for example, if you’re doing an obstacle course in the yard, make sure to whip out the timer on your phone and tell them you’re going to see how fast they can do it.

Also, include a dare component. As in, “I bet you can’t xyz…” Then watch them leap into action.

Finally, let go of expectations that the project or activity will be finished.

It probably won’t take you very long to get through this, so keep it simple, uncomplicated, and release the need for your child to follow every step.

Remember: These kiddos are here to master efficiency. One of their innate gifts is to reduce the number of steps in a process so that it gets accomplished more quickly than ever before.

So it might actually be a fun exercise to stage a bunch of redundant, silly, unnecessary obstructions to their process (i.e. traffic cones to slalom around, buzzers they have to ring before they can proceed, etc.

And let yourself laugh and cheer when they disregard those roadblocks or simply navigate around them. That’s what they are born to do!

What to Give your Manifestor Child Today to Boost Their Well-Being:

A Manifestor at any age wants to make an impact.

They are constantly being barraged by new inspiration. Yearnings to create something no one’s ever seen.

Which is the most likely reason your Manifestor kiddo is always spewing ideas at you or coming up with crazy, cutting-edge, or newfangled plans.

They want to vocalize these urges to see how they land with folks.

If, when they share what’s striking their fancy, they are routinely met with pushback, a furrowed brow, or a “That’s ridiculous,” then they are likely to shut down, a little bit at a time, until they become afraid to share the inspiration moving through them and altogether deny their creative genius.

So, keep that spark alive by allowing yourself to stay open with your Manifestor kid.

Listen — even as they soliloquize about their latest-and-greatest new idea.

React.

Show interest and enthusiasm.

Get excited with and for them. Offer help to make their idea a reality. Or simply go ahead and join in the brainstorming.

Express curiosity. Ask questions about what this brandy-new creation might look like, how it would work, who might be able to use it, what other features it could have…

In other words, just humor them!

Whatever you do, don’t just immediately shut them down. Nothing will break their spirit faster.

If their big, juicy, irresistible idea really is meant to be, they’ll disappear for a few hours and go make the thing.

Try not to interrupt them while they work feverishly at creating it.

Set healthy boundaries, of course, and keep to a healthy schedule, but allow them the time and space to let that urge move through them until it’s passed.

When it does, they’ll need some serious downtime. Birthing an idea into the world is no easy task!

And make sure to celebrate their creation, even if it’s super-weird.

If it turns out that their germ-of-an-idea isn’t really something they could sink their teeth into, they will let it go naturally.

They won’t mention it again, and it’ll be yesterday’s news before you know it.

So don’t get attached to seeing its completion or making them finish it — they’re not here to finish everything but, instead, to get the ball rolling and then hand it over, so they can eventually sit back and enjoy seeing the fruits of their labor grow and flourish.

Check in from time to time to see if they need support or snacks. Be animated about cheering them on when they seem super-eager and can’t wait to show you their progress.

And do what is possible to let them be the director of this project. Sure, be there to give manpower and to facilitate, or offer materials if needed and provide feedback if they ask you for it.

But simply showing them that you think their creative manifestations are groovy will go an extremely long way to supporting your Mani-kid’s well-being.

And showing enthusiasm rather than a scowl will last a lifetime; because it ensures they maintain high self-esteem about the creations they’re birthing, and they’ll live according to the way their energy is naturally moving.

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How does all this sound? Doable? Manageable? I’d love to know! Feel free to share in the comments.

If you need more specific guidance or you’d like to have me look over your kiddo’s chart to identify more areas and strategies that will nourish their well-being, I’d be glad to do so.

You can book a private session on my calendar here, and choose a time that works best for you. And then we’ll meet over Zoom to go deep and get you answers!

I look forward to working together, and am rooting for you and your children all the way!