If I’d known then what I know now, I could’ve prevented a lot of crying and arguing. A lot of frantic calls to child psychologist’s offices. A lot of turmoil in the home.
One of my former copywriting jobs involved writing customer segmentation profiles for imaginary humans based off of artificial intelligence gathered from digital data, like “This person shops online 5 times per year and will therefore be more likely to use X kinds of products,” for example.
Before that, I worked with an amazing partner using the results of job-seeking executives’ Myers-Briggs surveys to write professional branding narratives for them when they were trying to get recruited by better firms.
Both are very accurate tools that worked well. But both methods are all missing certain crucial elements about the way humans actually operate, deep down.
Neither could ever get everything right about every person, all the time. That would be next to impossible.
Or would it?
What I’ve learned over the past year is that, in fact, Human Design blows both of those, and a whole bunch of other personality/motivation/skill assessment methodologies, completely out of the water.
That’s because it shows us, from our moment of birth, who we are deep down, who we’re meant to be, how we’re meant to operate, how we’re meant to make decisions, how we’re built to receive and expend energy, and how we’re designed to optimally move through life so we can experience ease, flow, joy, satisfaction, peace, abundance, wholeness, alignment.
Neither A.I. nor Myers-Briggs nor Enneagram nor DISC tell you that.
The trouble is, so many of us fall off our course early on.
Getting Into Alignment: A Hard Road for Most of Us
There *might* be an optimum way to live, sure, but existing in this crazy world? It’s easy to forget that an “aligned” way of living exists and just give up, give in, do as you’re told, follow what your family does or abide by your religion or cultural norms.
Not that any of them might be what’s actually best for us, or healthy.
Where Does Human Design Come From?
Our parents, churches, TV shows, teachers, bullies, jerks and even our peers can “teach” us at different points that it’s not okay to be who we really are.
At least, as impressionable children, that’s what we learn to believe about ourselves.
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So then we hide our real magic and start behaving the way we’re “supposed” to, whatever the hell that means, because that’s what we’re taught is “acceptable.”
Which is a damn shame.
Because that means we go forth through life living a lie. And living a lie disconnects us from our truth. And causes stress, which makes us sick.
People who are living a lie, and stressed out from decades of keeping up appearances to present as someone they’re not, are at risk of a whole host of diseases.
Have you seen the increase in the number of people suffering from autoimmune disorders recently?
Obesity, diabetes, rheumatoid arthritis, chronic depression, all on the rise. Even in kids.
Living out of alignment with our truth causes a whole other host of problems–empty relationships, people-pleasing, codependency, perfectionism, self-loathing.
You name it.
And then we die. With regrets.
Is that what we want? For ourselves? For our kids? I should think not. And yet, so many of us settle there. We languish and accept that as our lot. So we medicate and numb ourselves, soothing the symptoms but never really getting to the core of our ailments and failed relationships.
Sometimes, though, those who are brave enough to dig, can re-find that magic, that truth, again. They realize they are able to recapture, bit by bit, the essence of their truth.
We CAN reunite with our true selves, regain some relationship with our core wants, needs, hopes & dreams. All that stuff we were told was ‘wrong’ early in life.
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For some of us, it can take til we’re 46 to finally pull that magic out of the back of our closet and dust it off to start using again. No matter how long it takes, though, it’s worth doing.
We may be rusty at first, but man, does it feel validating, liberating, so natural & good to reclaim the power we’ve known all along was inside but which we’ve denied ourselves the joy of expressing since, what, age 2?
Well, fuck that denial. Let’s stop doing that to ourselves, and to our kids, okay?
The New Paradigm in Parenting: Human Design
I missed the sons-and-daughters day fun last week but share these snapshots instead, because I’ve made so many revelations this past year since diving deep into Human Design–not just about myself, but about why my kids are the way they are, and I want you all to have the chance to understand your kids more thoroughly, too.
Like, if you had an owner’s manual for how to raise your kid, would you read it? I mean, that’s basically what this is.
Maybe you’ll consider joining me so that together, we can use this lens to raise our kids free from the shackles of others’ expectations.
So they can save themselves from wasting four decades worth of fearful self-loathing, denial of essential needs, shame for their real desires and low self-worth like maybe you, and definitely I, did.
The insights you see next to my cute kids in these pics are from their Human Design charts AND from my observations, and they’re the kinds of things you’ll be able to articulate & understand about your kids, too, if you join me this Friday 10/7 at my free virtual workshop, Discover & Nurture Your Child’s Greatest Gifts Using Human Design.
It’s 3 sessions over the next 3 Fridays, each starting at noon EST and lasting an hour. I won’t offer this free ever again, so jump in early to be at the forefront of what’s shaping up to be a new paradigm in parenting that *could* prepare the next generation for a life of ease, flow, alignment, higher consciousness and goodness all around.
I could’ve known every single bullet point listed on these pics about T&L at the time of their birth, had I started studying this system back in 2012 & ’13 when they were born. The many years of observing them wouldn’t even have been necessary. I could show you this about your kids too, if you know their birth time.
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Raising a Human Design Generator
Before this, though, I went bonkers trying to get Teagan to lie still and just sleep for crissakes, worrying she had some kind of hyperactive disorder bc of her constant movement. Nope. She’s just a Human Design Generator, which is a person who has sustainable, regenerative life force energy for doing-doing-doing.
And she has Gate 41 in her Conscious Sun, the Gate of Contraction, which is a trait that drives a persistent need to experience All Things, feel all the feelings and have all the sensations that are possible to have.
She’s just a person who needs to feel it all. Simple as that.
It took me 9 years and a major struggle, but now I get it, and it’s so easy. Human Design has given me the awareness and clarity I’ve so badly needed to just let her just be her whole, experiential self.
Because her zest for life is her gift to the world–people like her are meant to show the rest of us how we *could* fucking feel instead of going numb staring at our phones the way we mostly do instead.
People with Gate 41 are here to show us how to appreciate, how to immerse in the blissful, ecstatic joy of living, of having the privilege of experiencing life in human form, able to see and hear and touch and taste all the hard-copy magic that surrounds us every day.
When I let that happen for Teagan, she sparkles like the brightest star in the sky you’ve ever seen. As long as I don’t act like a cloud and get in her way, which was how I used to parent. No more.
Raising a Human Design Projector
And rather than nagging Leo to join clubs and participate in after-school activities like I did for most of his life, against his will, I could’ve trusted his knowing, like I do now; I could’ve listened to his hyper-aware intuition that’s always spot-on and simply sees & knows when something’s unsafe, unhealthy or not just good for him. In HD terms, he’s Splenic.
Dude just knows things–in the moment, like a deer in the woods.
He’s a Projector, too, which is like having night vision goggles in a perpetually sunless sky, or like being a hawk flying overhead with an aerial view on everything. He knows what’s good for him (and for everyone else, too, as it happens), and when I let him just focus, for hours, on doing that thing that sparks his knowing & vision, he shines like the sun in San Diego, which makes him the go-to guy for advice on certain topics (even if it is Minecraft, or airports).
Knowing Leo’s got this wisdom and keen understanding in his mind’s eye that I don’t means, as his mom, I need to accept my own limitations and pull that clarity out of him, invite him to share his wealth of knowledge.
Because that’s his gift to the world: going full-tilt, going big or going home, immersing his whole self in his projects–so that he can share the brilliance of his knowing with the rest of us.
If I were to keep forcing his attention elsewhere, make him tamp down his unquenchable curiosity, try to convince him his ‘knowing’ was faulty and make him ‘do what I say’ instead, he’d be all set for a life of not trusting himself, becoming a people-pleaser, and spilling into depression from not honoring his own wants and needs.
And no parent wants that for their child. Right?
If I’d known then what I know now, I could’ve prevented a lot of crying and arguing. A lot of frantic calls to child psychologist’s offices. A lot of turmoil in the home.
But we’re on the right track now, and I want this peace and understanding for all of you, my fellow moms and dads out there who just want their kids to feel whole, too.
I’m sharing the knowledge I’ve built since last fall for free, so you guys can get clarity on your kids’ superpowers and let them shine, too. Please come.
Register here. I can’t wait to create this space and share community with you.
My husband and I have benefitted so much from using Human Design as a lens to understand our family dynamics: we have a ton more acceptance, tolerance and compassion now for the weird stuff our two kiddos can sometimes get into.
We know that the more we foster it, the more they will stay aligned to their truth and be able to draw to them all the goodness they could ever want.
It feels good to be working with them now, supporting their energy and their needs and their quirks to pull out their magic within, rather than always struggling against them, making them hide their goodness, trying to assert our will and expectations on them for who we thought they should be.
It’s awesome and so much more peaceful.
If you want a taste of this too, join me Friday. Let’s let our kids step into the fullest, highest expression of the magic they came here with, and support them on that journey.
Hope to see you on the call. Register via Eventbrite and bring an open mind.
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